Eleanor Osborn's Blog
15 CROSS STREET, Medfield, MA 02052
The road to a healthy self-image is not always a forward moving journey. At times you may have to take a step or two backward to gain perspective on an area of struggle. To take even one thought and replace it with one that helps you carry forward, is a victory. Life is hard enough out there without your own brain working against you too. Shaping the voice, you hear most often, your internal voice provides the opportunity to live out a healthier mental journey.
What You Think is What You Get
How you see yourself affects not only how you interact with the world around you, but how the world reacts to you. The things you tell yourself cause you to grab, or pass, what life has to offer. Beliefs about your abilities or your worthiness can lead you down paths that build up your self-image or have you running away. Unlike magnets that need the opposite charges to attach, an internal voice that is negative actually attracts more negative thoughts resulting in a less than favorable outlook on life. Whereas, the positive self-talk and affirmations build self-confidence that the outside world responses to often, in kind.
Gaining Some Perspective
When you catch yourself coloring your world with the darkest of colors, elevate the contents of what you are telling yourself. Often these messages are based on a negative experience or learned response. Sometimes asking yourself may not be the best way to identify these thought patterns. You may need the perspective of a trusted friend or family member. Seeking out a mental health professional can lead to helpful insights that you may not have been aware of before. Once you have identified unhealthy thought patterns, you are now able to replace those with a tone and message that can help you see life differently.
Build a Better Habit
Putting a new tone to your inner voice will take effort and practice. You may want to write out some of those new messages to have them handy when you need to reinforce the new way of talking to yourself. You can also print out those things that keep you focused on where you desire this new perspective to take you. Steering your mental attitude when life throws you a curveball is a curial aspect of building a healthy inner voice.
Try this; put up an affirmation where you can see it several times during the day and encourage your inner voice along the way.
One aspect of house hunting that some prospective home buyers overlook is security. Perhaps it's because they're looking at homes in "nice neighborhoods, where you shouldn't have to worry about that sort of thing happening." Maybe another reason they're paying little or no attention to security issues is that they're more preoccupied with the layout of the kitchen, the size of the backyard, and the condition of the master bathroom.
Even though there are dozens of details to compare and think about when you're house hunting, security features are important enough to include in your checklist. By letting your real estate agent know that home security is a high priority for you, they'll hopefully point out security features that they notice and perhaps ask the listing agent for any additional information on things like installed alarms systems, deadbolt locks, or security lighting on the property.
As a side note, if the present owner has recently installed an extensive security system in the house, you can also use that as an opportunity (excuse) to inquire about crime in the neighborhood and whether there have been any recent incidents in the area. Additional research may need to be done to ferret out that information.
As you check out different houses that your buyers' agent shows you, here are a few security-related checkpoints to keep in mind:
- Do the doors look solid and are they secured by deadbolt locks?
- Do first-floor windows have functional and securely locking mechanisms?
- Are there any outside floodlights, lamp posts, and/or other forms of illumination around the house?
- Are there any overgrown bushes next to the house that could conceal a burglar's attempt to enter the house through a window?
- Are there any fences on the premises that might discourage a burglar from entering the property?
- Do the main entrances have locking storm doors that provide an extra layer of security?
- Are there any other security vulnerabilities that you or your real estate agent think need addressing, either now or in the immediate future?
When you do find the ultimate house for you and your family, it's always a good idea to change the locks on all external doors as soon as possible. You never know how many duplicate keys have been circulated over the years to contractors, neighbors, cleaning people, pet sitters, house sitters, and family members. One way to take control of your new home's security situation is to make sure there are no extra house keys floating around in the hands of people you don't know.
15 CROSS STREET, Medfield, MA 02052
If you've lived in your home for very long, you know that lots of places collect dust, lint, grime, hair, fuzz and, well, gunk. Often, we become so busy in our daily lives that we neglect to remove the gunk until it causes a significant problem such as a clogged drain or even a fire in the dryer vent.
So, what to do? Get out the gunk, of course.
Put your gunk patrol on a schedule. Once every month, or more often if needed, check these areas and remove any debris built up there that can cause expensive calls to a plumber, electrician, or the fire department.
- Vanity drains: In the bathrooms, the vanity drain collects hair, fuzz, slivers of soap and other junk that causes clogs. To clear the plug area, push the plunger in as far as it goes, reach into the drain area with tweezers and pull out any hair and slimy gunk hiding in there. New quick-release plugs with removable baskets make this job a snap. If the drain already has a clog, turn off the water access under the sink. Then gently remove the trap—the curved piece of pipe—to see if you can locate the clog there. If the trap is stuck, you’ll want to call in a plumbing professional.
- Shower and tub drains: Similar to vanities, these drains clog with hair and other debris that washes down. Pull what you can from the upper side. If your shower grate has removable screws, you can loosen them and lift it off to access any clog. Tubs are more difficult because you cannot access the drain or the trap, so you may need to call a plumber for a plugged tub. To protect against this problem, place a hair screen (available at hardware stores) over the drain and clean it out daily.
- Dryer lint hose: In the same way that lint builds up in the dryer lint trap, it also collects in the hose leading to the outside vent. Often, dryer hoses become kinked when pushing the dryer into place, so carefully pull out the unit and carefully unhook the hose from both the dryer side and the wall. Carry the hose outside and shake it out over a trash bin. Look through the hose to make sure you've removed all the collected lint. If necessary, use a bent wire coat hanger or broom handle to remove any lint you can't reach. Carefully replace the hose, making sure the clips are in place, and the hose remains un-kinked when you push back the dryer. Remember, built up lint causes more than just an inefficient dryer, it can also cause house fires.
Just a few moments each month can save a homeowner from tons of costly repairs. If you'd prefer to hire someone to take care of servicing these items for you, reach out to your real estate professional for a referral.